Days in the landscaping and lawn care business are filled with making lawns and gardens more beautiful and continuously fighting weeds. But as I connect with the earth, the quiet rhythms of gardening often teach me good life lessons. Among the best takeaways from that work is the art of weeding—not just in the garden but in our lives.

 

In a garden, weeds are simply plants that are not where we want them. They may be healthy and even beautiful. Take dandelions, for instance—they're actually an herb and my favorite flower—but they impede the growth of other plants. This concept of weeding also relates to other parts of our lives. The weeds could be material possessions cluttering our homes. They may come out of those very draining or toxic relationships. Perhaps they even come from the outdated habits and tasks that were once a good idea but no longer serve a purpose.

 

First, let's consider material possessions. In a world where consumerism is rampant, we tend to accumulate more things than necessary. Our homes become cluttered with once-loved items that now serve little purpose. These weeds take up space and energy. Aren't you sick of dusting them? By regularly re-assessing and clearing out items we do require, we create room for things that truly add value to our lives.

 

Next, let's look at others. Just as a garden thrives with the right mix of plants, our lives flourish with supportive and nurturing relationships. However, some relationships, like weeds, can be draining. Some are so toxic that they stifle our growth. That doesn't mean that these people are inherently bad. However, they may not suit where we are in our life's path in the here and now. It's vital to grow into relationships that support and enrich us.

Finally, consider our habits and tasks. Our daily routines are filled with meaningful activities, some not so much. Like a gardener who meticulously chooses what to plant, we must decide which habits and tasks are worth our time and energy. Activities that once were beneficial may no longer align with our current goals or values. Weeding out these redundant or irrelevant tasks can save time for more fulfilling and productive pursuits.

 

Weeding requires continuous effort. It's not a one-time task but an ongoing process of evaluation and action. It involves recognizing what is hindering growth, making decisions, and sometimes dealing with the temporary discomfort of letting go.

 

Mental space is a precious commodity in our gardens and everyday lives. Everything takes up space. The purpose of weeding is not just to remove the unwanted but to make room for growth and to let beauty blossom. When we apply that notion to our lives, we encourage the things that matter in the here and now to bloom.

 

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Deborah Tayloe is the co-owner (along with her husband, Randy Tayloe) of Tayloe's Lawn Care Services, LLC, in Aulander, North Carolina. Connect with them on Facebook.